Dating a married Man..Do what works for you

I believe that when it comes to dating, we all do what works for ourselves, if dating a younger man works for you then do that, if dating  an older man works for you then do that, you should always do what makes you happy even if its against the society.

but today I will raise my point on dating someone who is under the covenant or rather who is in a committed relationship with someone else. if you have never dated one then you would never understand how is it like to be so much in love with someone who belongs to someone else. there is always a reason for each and  every action one takes.

I am not saying dating a married man is the right thing to do all I am saying is that it works for others like me. I have been seeing him for the past five years and he has been nothing but a blessing  to me through him I have experienced God's mercy in my life., I found inner peace  and the smile he gives me comes from deep inside my heart, something that I never experienced with all the single guys that I dated before.
 I know how it feels like to be loved, I know how it feels like to be appreciated. I have never in my life met someone so selfless, someone who has in so many occasions put my needs ahead of his.

I will not comment on how is it like on the other side(his home) but all I can say is that I respect his time when he is at home. I do not call even if i am in need of his help I can never call I will wait for his call then we can then continue with where we left off. I would like to believe that she has no idea about me because what ever  I do with him does not affect her time with me. It  is however painful and emotionally draining to date such men at times.

I can never say this Relationship is guaranteed and that it will never end but all I am saying is that It makes me happy, it completes me and it works for me for now.
you can still date a single man and he cheats on you and get you heartbroken so dating a single man does not guarantee you a great life..yes according to the society  one should get herself her own man but unfortunately that will not work for all of us..

No one said he should leave his wife for me, because truth is I can never do all the things she does for her. I am not auditioning for her role BIG Nooo. I am doing my thing and neither way you date a single man there are simply no Guarantees

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God and You God

we are living in a generation where some of us think things are happening according to our will and others think God does not exist. but the truth is God exists and it does not matter what kind of a situation you going through and for how long what matters is that he  will see you through and this did not catch him by surprise.

It is very disturbing or rather depressing to see your former classmates, friends, siblings  succeeding all the time and then you ask yourself But God why have you Forgotten about me, Where are you when I need your blessings this Much?

You start asking asking yourself Why is my marriage falling apart, because I have always been faithful to my husband what did I do to deserve this pain?

others are like But "mom why did you leave me" I cant find inner peace , well Today, I am here to tell you that:

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 Do not keep telling your problems to your friends or people because they easily lose their interest But God does not get tired to hear you over and over again.

Psalms 146:5-6 Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the LORD his God, who made heaven and earth,  the sea, and all that is in them, who keeps faith forever


Know always that  God exists, he loves you 
and that God is Never Too early or Too late but he's always on time 

Delays are not denials 

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“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts” (Isa. 55:8–9).

South Africa Vs Pakistan

Life is Very difficult for the Somalians that are living and conducting their businesses in South Africa.  These people are not only generating profit but also helping the Soweto residents by reducing the prices and shortening the distances to the local malls and supermarkets by being in the local communities. The looting started after one of the parkistans shot and killed a 10 years old boy. the sowetans got angry and they decided to violate the whole of soweto and chase these people away. this is not only affecting the Foreigners but also the investors from foreign countries and putting our country in the bad books.

community members were breaking to the somalian shops and taking fridges, groceries, and even a month old toddler lost a life during this disaster. we were supposed to be Champions of Peace and love for we had a long walk to freedom.

WHAT ARE WE DOING TO FIGHT NYAOPE?







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We are living in a country where our Media and justice system are extremely poor, youngsters are indulging in a certain drug namely Nyaope . Nyaope is a cocktail of, among other things, rat poison, dagga, heroin and antiretroviral medication. It is mainly used by teenagers.It appeared around 2007 on the streets of the Tshwane townships of Soshanguve, Atteridgeville and Mamelodi. This drug is causing crime In South Africa,  it is cheap  and easily accessible.  Not long ago Two women were found in Pretoria selling Nyaope in Primary schools.

·         My question  is What is the media doing about this?

·          And why is our justice system so very poor?

·          what are we doing as the citizens of South Africa doing about this?

I have noticed that the community members usually know the people who sell this drug but they never go and report to the police simply because they are afraid to be killed., even if they go to the police that is not going to help because they do arrest the sellers of these drug  and later release them. We are no longer safe walking in the streets because we might be robbed our bags or even killed because these people are heartless. As for the Media it acts as a promotion tool for the usage of drugs it makes it appear as if it is “cool”  to use drugs. Instead there should be documentaries that are teaching the youth about the Dangers of drugs, how to behave at rehabs and where to seek help.

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back street abortions killing our sisters

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Ever since the Choice of Termination of Pregnancy Act was passed in 2005, many South Africans felt at ease because there was now a safer, legal way of carrying out abortion.
These days there are many bogus doctors performing abortions. Even though the police are not certain how and where they have acquired their qualifications and the procedure they use is totally different from the ones used in legal clinics such as the Marie Stopes clinics. They cannot by law go out and arrest these doctors.

Lieutenant Colonel Mtati Tana of the communications office for the police in East London said:  “Since abortion is legal in this country it is hard for the police to just go out and arrest people as that might result into legal implications.
Reasons why teenagers go to these backstreet abortions:

• they are cheaper
• convincing people that they are painless
• they take up to 30 minutes
• they are 100% guaranteed

Unsafe abortions claim the lives of about 68,000 women each year across Africa, according to the world Health Organization (WHO).
Although most countries in Africa have legalized abortions within the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, many women still choose to do ‘back street’ abortions, i.e. abortions that are not administered by doctors at hospitals.
Despite the legality of abortion in South Africa, many pregnant women still opt for illegal abortions. This may be due to the target advertising by private doctors who operate in clinics. These doctors print out pamphlets and leave them in various public spaces, including bus stops.
While these advertisements seem to be providing much-needed solutions for unwanted pregnancies, the problem is that many of these doctors do not have the proper equipment to deal with potential emergencies during the procedure. Many patients hemorrhage, which can lead to infertility and death. There is also the prevalent problem of septicemia, caused by unsterilized equipment, which can also leads to death. 
If we are to stop illegal abortions --and I believe that given the dangers they pose, they should be stopped-- then public education is key. In the UK, a prominent step was taken that combated unsafe abortion techniques, by using television advertising of the facilities and options available to women. Surely we need to do the same thing in South Africa? Such a television campaign would be challenging. Anti-abortion campaigners would no doubt oppose it but we or the state need to educate women about their rights, where they can access safe abortions and the dangers of backstreet abortions.